CHILDREN SUFFER FROM THE MISTAKES OF PARENTS - nkem

STOP MAKING THEM PAY

Every child looks up to their father and mother as role models. And as they grow, the influence of their parents on their behaviours causes them to
make some vital life choices and what ever good they derive from looking up to their parents goes a long way in affecting their moral life, socialization and even their emotions. But often times, parents as a result of frustration or habit make mistakes which these children suffer for. Mistakes ranging from abuses to negligence and even broken legacy.

Talking about being a role model, children are willing to follow by example of parents but what do you think happens to them when as a parent you become an inappropriate role model? How can you become one: going into the street to fight, drinking to stupor and coming home to transfer it all on your family, chasing married men and women, borrowing money to gamble, owing every shop far and near with little or no effort to pay back, getting into business trouble all the time.

Yet you never consider the effect it has on your children who as a matter of fact would have to walk to school or play out on the streets, that is if they would, with their heads bowed down in shame because of your poor choices and actions. Imagine what names they are called, and their peers are scares of them because of the stories they are told by their parents about your family because of you, they cant play anymore because as the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, so do they think that your children will be like you.

You put them in so much debt that they have to pay for for most if not all their life. How they are mocked wherever they go, they walk into a room and people gossip, and they feel bad because you have broken their confidence, and put a dent on their image as well as yours which brings so much disrespect and disgrace. You have forced them to start making unwise choices and suffer because of you. The worst part is when they become what you are.

I solicit for all parents as i read in a Judaism website that If, in the past, you were an inappropriate role model for your children, now you must bend over backwards to model behavior that is good, kind and honest. Hopefully, this kind of behavior will bring about respect from your children, as well as a willingness to follow your example and live happily. Do not curse your children, abuse them, do not use violence, do not neglect the effect your life choices have on your children as parents.

When you leave a good legacy, you leave them with so much advantages but when you make so much mistakes and poor choices, you put them in so much debt because they would have to pay for them and you should realise that the consequences of your behaviour, action and choices would become a burden on your children.

May 27 - Children's day in Nigeria
An article by Osakwe James Nkemjika as regards the Children's day celebration. Start building a good image for your child today to give them a better future.